Anger Mangement – Muddy Water

Once a pious teacher was walking from one town to another town with some of his students. While they were traveling, they happened to pass by a lake.

They stopped there and the teacher told one of his students, “I am thirsty. Do get me some water from that lake there.”

The student walked up to the lake. When he reached it, he noticed that right at that moment, a bullock cart started crossing through the lake. As a result, the water became very muddy and turbid.

The student thought, “How can I give this muddy water to the teacher to drink!”

So he came back and told his teacher, “The water in there is very muddy. I don’t think it is fit to drink.”

After about half an hour, again the teacher asked the same student to go back to the lake and get him some water to drink. The student obediently went back to the lake.

This time too he found that the lake was muddy. He returned and informed the teacher about the same.

After sometime, again the teacher asked the same student to go back. The student reached the lake to find the lake absolutely clean and clear with pure water in it. The mud had settled down and the water above it looked fit for drinking. So he collected some water in a pot and brought it to the teacher.

The teacher looked at the water and then he looked up at the student and said, “See what you did to make the water clean. You waited long and the mud settled down on its own and you got clear water. Your mind is also like that! When it is disturbed, just let it be. Give it a little time. It will settle down on its own. You don’t have to put in any effort to calm it down. It will happen. It is effortless”.

Similarly, when you are angry, give some extra time. You can calm down inside. This means not just controlling your outward behavior, but also controlling your internal responses, taking steps to lower your heart rate, calm yourself down, and let the feelings subside.